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How To Know Am I Really Suffering From Postpartum Depression (Male postnatal depression signs)

Male postnatal depression

The kind of depression known as postpartum depression is common among women. It may be experienced just after the birth of a baby. The feeling of sadness, guilt, hopelessness, is common. But nowadays, the depression is also seen in men i.e. male postpartum depression. The depression occurs after the birth of a child. Being a parent and most important being a father of a new infant is especially tough. Postnatal depression is a clinical condition. 99% of men suffer from this. During the first year of a child’s life gloominess, apprehension and other such problems with your mood can occur anytime. Postnatal depression is a very serious condition and it must be treated carefully and at an early stage as before you know about your condition. If postnatal depression left untreated it may result in long-term damaging consequences to you and your family affecting your newborn even.

Listed below are the consequences, which can lead to postnatal depression:

  • Lack of good sleep
  • Hormonal changes
  • Not a very good relationship with next of kin
  • There’s a relationship stress in the family
  • Poor social functioning
  • Lack of support from others, such as close friends or relatives
  • Availability of limited resources
  • Economic problems
  • The feeling of being excluded from the connection between the mother and baby

Postnatal depression quiz:

Let’s get started with an assessment that will help you determine whether you are suffering from postnatal depression and it’s called the Edinburgh Postnatal Depression Scale or simply the EPDS. The quiz has been used for postnatal depression and anxiety and also found great effective with men.

  1. In the past few weeks, I have been able to laugh and see the funny side of things:
  • As much as I always could
  • Not much quiet now
  • Definitely not so much now
  • Not at all
  1. In the past week, I have looked forward with enjoyment to things:
  • As much as I ever did
  • Rather less than what I used to do
  • Definitely less than I used to do
  • Barely at all
  1. When things went wrong, I unnecessarily blamed myself:
  • Most of the time
  • Sometimes
  • Not very often
  • Never
  1. For no good reason I have been worried or fretful:
  • Not at all
  • Hardly ever
  • Sometimes
  • Very often
  1. For no good reason, I felt scared or unnerved:
  • Quite a lot
  • Sometimes
  • Not much
  • Not at all
  1. From past few weeks, things have been getting on top of me:
  • Most of the times it is difficult for me to cope up at all
  • Sometimes I haven’t been coping as well as usual
  • Most of the times I have managed to cope up well
  • No, I have been coping as well as ever
  1. From past few days or weeks, I have been so unhappy that I have difficulty in sleeping:
  • Most of the time
  • Sometimes
  • Not very often
  • Not at all
  1. I felt sad and wretched from the last couple of weeks:
  • Most of the time
  • Sometimes
  • Not very often
  • Not at all
  1. From past weeks I have been so gloomy that I have been crying:
  • Most of the time
  • Sometimes
  • Intermittently
  • Never
  • I have also come through the thought of harming myself:
  • Quite often
  • Sometimes
  • Hardly ever
  • Never

 

From the above quiz calculate your score out of 10. If the total score ranges from 5 to 8, this means that you have the anxiety disorder. If the total score ranges from 9 to 10, that indicates you are suffering from depression. However, it is necessary or recommended to go for a clinical treatment for further assessment.

Postpartum Depression Facts:

Mentioned below are some of the postpartum depression facts to know about:

  • It includes anxiety and other mood disorders: There are mainly four subtypes classified namely depression, anxiety, panic attacks, and OCD.
  • Not the same as the baby blues: Baby blues typically starts within first six weeks postpartum. Around 50% to 80% of people majorly moms experience the baby blues. This happens with a change in hormones or a change in routine or may also be lack of sleep. Baby blues means crying without knowing the reason.
  • Does not immediately show up after the birth: Symptoms’ are usually not viewed or observed at an early stage it takes time and sometimes even a year.
  • Postpartum psychosis: It refers to a serious and psychological illness. It may result in harm either to yourself or to your spouse or your child.

Let’s have a glimpse of postpartum psychosis; what is it all about:

Postpartum Psychosis is a mental illness where one thinks to harm oneself or to their loved ones. In this people find it difficult to respond emotionally. This condition is different from postpartum depression, though there is a possibility of occurring two conditions at the same time. The condition is comparatively rare among people. One who has a history of mental illness tends to suffer from the condition of postpartum psychosis. In extreme situations one exhibit behaviors of talking to oneself, refusing to do something, making an absurd statement.

Symptoms’ of Postpartum Psychosis are listed below:

  • Delusion; belief in something which is not true
  • Hallucination; experience or see something which does not exist
  • Difficulty in responding emotionally
  • Tetchiness
  • Disturbance
  • Confusion; something you are not clear off
  • Thoughts of harming oneself; suicide

However, there is a treatment available for this condition and the person suffering should be immediately treated. It is important to call for a psychiatric facility as early as possible.

Now there arises a major question of how long does the postpartum depression last?

Well, there’s no such time specified as for how long does the disease last whether it’s for a short period of time or does it lasts for a longer period of time. Many searches have been made to find the time as for how long does this disease lasts but couldn’t find any answer to this. However, if the disease is observed at an early stage one can recover fully. More quickly you detect your disease the more early you can be treated.

Listed Below Are Some of The Postnatal Depression Symptoms’:

  • Feeling of besieged: one feels overwhelmed or besieged not in the positive sense but in the negative sense. You more likely feel that you would not be able to do such things, it would be impossible for you to handle pressure. One would most probably think or questions his decisions.
  • The feeling of guilt arises because you thought of doing the work or handling pressure but the end result is not as same as of what you thought to be. Suddenly the feeling of worry ness arises within you. One feels so sad that they end up crying, or does not feel happy about anything and founds lack of connection with the baby.
  • A stage of confusion arises where you are not able to understand what all is happening to you. One feels somewhat scared.
  • The feeling of irritation and anger arises. One lost complete patience from oneself. Everything around seems to aggravate you. Everything seems to go out of control.
  • The feeling of emptiness and deadness arises.
  • You no more feel the connection with your baby or with your family.
  • The feeling of sadness occurs that you can’t stop yourself from crying, even when there’s no such reason to cry for.
  • You feel weak and flawed as if the situation will never get better. You find no hope of the situation getting better.
  • Your senses seem to go out of control.
  • Lack of sleep. You find difficulty in sleeping no matter how exhausted or drained you are.
  • Lack of focus and attentiveness. It becomes difficult for you to explain a certain situation. You are unable to talk upon something. It becomes difficult to memorize certain things that you were supposed to do. You lack in decision-making. You are not able to take up decisions rightly.
  • You tend to feel disconnected from everyone. For some reason, you feel eccentrical. You are unable to connect yourself with the rest of the world.
  • Eventually, you feel to snap out; because you feel doing everything correctly, exercising, taking up pills on time, doing yoga and meditation, but then also you feel everything going wrong with you.
  • Feeling of running and leaving everything aside triggers in your mind. Thought of driving to an unknown place, or taking up of an extra dose of pills or maybe finding some other alternative to this.
  • You are realizing that something is definitely going wrong. But despite the fact, you go fanatical or crazy.
  • You feel scared or afraid of seeing your new behavior and realize that you might have lost the old version of you. It becomes difficult for you to realize this new reality.
  • You feel that if you call someone for help they might judge you and will not accept the fact of what you are; or what you are suffering through.

Treatment of Postpartum Depression Without Actually Taking Drugs– Naturally:

  • Ask for help: Most people do not ask for help because of the fear that people might be judging them and this makes more difficult to tackle the problem. If any of your friend or relative come up and offer you for any help that they can do for you, just take up the offer without any hesitation. Becoming a new parent is difficult and completely a new experience. There’s nothing wrong in asking for a help to solve your problems because anyway your close friends and family members are not going to judge you in any situation.
  • Sleep: Sleep is a very important phenomenon or a thing for a stable life. If you do not take up quality sleep other things tend to get affected. Rest and sleep is very important for the human body and also for other things to function properly.
  • Go outside: Apart from being all day in the same place kind of irritate the person, because one gets easily bored or irritated by being in the same environment. So and spend some time in the fresh and open air. You must experience a minimum of 15 minutes exposure to sunlight to maintain the proper amount of Vitamin D in your body. A person going through depression fresh air and sunlight is all that needed to freshen up your mind and soul.
  • Exercise: Exercising daily lightens up your body and mind. You must do jogging, yoga, meditation on a daily basis. Exercise is considered a great tool to fight from depression naturally.
  • Best medicine; Food: Taking up a healthy diet is very necessary. You must include all those food items on your list which are rich in nutrients, minerals, vitamins which are needed for your body. A healthy diet keeps all the deficiencies away from the body. You must also include milk, juice, fruits and dry fruits in your food chart that you will be taking up daily. A great start is up from proteins. Taking up proteins in your diet keeps your sugar level still and also stabilizes your mood. In order to boost up production meat, beans, nuts should also be considered. This all helps in proper functioning of your brain. One important note should be considered that of limiting up the requirements of caffeine. Taking up caffeine all day long might result in anger, frustration and you will also find difficulty in sleeping.
  • Supplements: for a healthy mind and body, a healthy diet is a must. Low level of iron in the body can result in feeling tired and worn-out. Supplements such as fish oil, omega-3 contain fatty acids, which help you to fight from your disease.
  • Meditate: Adopt a habit of meditation on a regular basis. At the beginning stage start meditation for at least 5 minutes in a quiet and easy environment without getting interrupted, this will probably increase your concentration level and then probably increase your time and go for 20 minutes daily. You will suddenly feel calm and peace. When you breathe deeply you will feel a state of calmness around you.
  • Laughing: when you are depressed it is probably difficult to enjoy or have fun. Force yourself to laugh. Keep yourself happy in any way possible. Do what makes you alive. Have fun with your loved ones, with your friends. As it is said laughing is the best medicine. Just laugh and laugh.

Difference Between Baby Blues’ and Postpartum:

Majorly only a percent of 10-20 suffer from postpartum, whereas nearly about 70-80 suffer from baby blues. When you feel irritated, exhausted this means you are suffering from baby blues, this results in tiredness, hormonal changes, you feel more responsible. Yet for some these blues are actually postpartum depression. You tend to feel tired, snap out of things; you get exhausted that you are not able to sleep properly. The feeling of worry arises. The very basic difference between baby blues and postpartum is about the timing. If after delivery of two-three weeks this no longer means suffering through baby blues. For postpartum depression, you will feel anxious and nervous.

Postpartum Nursing Assessment Tool:

The assessment test is done through ALONE, that means an (amniocentesis); L(L/S ratio); O(Oxytocin test); N (nonstress test); E(estriol levels).

Postpartum Care for New Moms:

Following mentioned below is the postpartum care kit for new moms:

  • A Sitz bath
  • Maxi pads
  • Lidocaine spray
  • A squirt bottle
  • An ice pack
  • Witch hazel pads
  • Cold compresses and warm washed clothes
  • Comfy clothes

 

Postpartum recovery:

Recovery from postpartum is not possible in just a few days even it takes months to recover fully. Recovering fully from postpartum can take a couple of months. While in most of the cases women get recovered early within 6-8 weeks. However, to feel yourself again it takes a quite long period of time. During the phase of recovery try not to get frustrated, angry, irritated, or disturbed as it may negatively affect to your surrounding environment also. Give some time to yourself and to your body to revive again. Things you can probably do best take a proper amount of meal, rest, sleep and just try to give a break to yourself. During the phase, you will also experience hormonal change.

Conclusion:

Postpartum depression occurs not only in women who gave birth to the new child but it is also commonly found in men. And however, men postnatal are common these days. In this state, people tend to feel exhausted and irritated. They are not able to analyze the reason for their sadness and suddenly they feel out of this world which tends to reduce control over oneself.  However, there are various available treatments that one can go through. Just analyze the early stages of depression signs, visit a psychiatrist for the treatment. Just make sure you to take treatment regularly and on time for early recovery.

 

About the author

Lauren Brown

I am Lauren Brown, mom of 2 beautiful and smart kids. Parenting is called to be simple for mom or dad, but it is not as simple it looks. With my own experience and being a parenting counsellor, I help you to be the best Mom & Dad in your kid's world.

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